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Bridesmaids

In the last couple of weeks I’ve been to see the film ‘Bridesmaids’ twice. I enjoyed it equally both times – even though the audience the second time was abysmal, barely laughing or making their presence felt at all. I guess it’s what you could call ‘heartwarming’ (though that’s not a word I particularly like). And I realised that the reason I liked this movie so much, despite some ‘icky’ bits, is that it’s real. It’s a (romantic) comedy that’s not just about the jokes and the laughs and the happy end. It’s actually about realistic people, who are going through or have been through rough times, but who ultimately come out of it in a better place – or at any rate, on the road to that better place. They’re people, not caricatures. Yes, they’re exaggerated a bit – they have to be, for it to be a film – but at the end of the day they’re still recognizable. Rhodes, the policeman who desperately tries to be funny and never really gets there, who is sweet and caring but who also gets frustrated when his efforts go unnoticed. Lillian, the bride-to-be who gets swept up by the glamorous lifestyle of the boss’ wife. My personal favourite has got to be Megan, such an unconventional and refreshing character to see in a film – she’s big, she’s quirky, she tackles life with the utmost optimism and is not afraid of herself. In any other film, Megan would probably be a lesbian. But here, she’s unashamedly sexual, and it’s incredible to see. Some of her actions are quite cringeworthy, but not any more so than Annie’s when she throws herself at the womanizing Ted, who clearly doesn’t want anything other than casual sex.

That’s the thing about this movie. It shows one of the most frank depictions of sex that I know. Annie and Ted disagree over what to do, they switch positions a lot; Rita complains about the sex in her marriage, and candidly tells the girls she wants “balls in her face {on the bachelorette party}… to give her something to fantasise about for the rest of her life”; we even see mouselike Becca starting to come to terms with the fact that she does want sex, even if her husband doesn’t, and perhaps she should stand up for this. We need more films with this kind of attitude to sex. [Of course, it’s always described as ‘woman-oriented’ or ‘female-driven’, implying it’s aimed solely at a female audience, which I think is wrong; I’m positive that men would enjoy it just as much. Perhaps for different reasons, but they’d enjoy it nonetheless.] I hope people watch it and realise that it’s ok to be sexual, and that sexuality is unique to everyone. It’s not a film about sex, but it does have something to say on that topic, and kudos to the writers and producers for saying it.

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Crisis

I feel like my country, the country I was born in and have spent the larger portion of my life in, the country I have got to know so much more intimately this last year, is imploding, falling in on itself, and its people can’t see the wood for the trees. Strikes help noone; protests and demonstrations help noone. Lashing out at the police or journalists or those people desperately trying to put things to rights, to get Greece back on her feet, is not a solution. We should be gritting our teeth collectively and doing our best to get on with things. We should be working together, not fighting with each other. I just wish people were less short-sighted.

That being said, the rest of the world needs to chip in too. There is a lot wrong with Greece, with her people, but that doesn’t mean that they should just be left to drown. From a purely human perspective, we owe it to people in need to lend them a hand. And if people elsewhere put a little more thought into it, they would realise that it’s in their own interests to help Greece out. Because, frankly, bailing Greece out is vastly cheaper than the potential economic catastrophe that could ensue if they’re allowed to go down. It would have pretty far-reaching consequences. And that’s the last thing the world needs right now, surely? As far as I’m concerned, it just makes sense to try and prevent that. But I suppose some people can’t see beyond here and now, and all that matters is that their money is in their little paws.