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Bridesmaids

In the last couple of weeks I’ve been to see the film ‘Bridesmaids’ twice. I enjoyed it equally both times – even though the audience the second time was abysmal, barely laughing or making their presence felt at all. I guess it’s what you could call ‘heartwarming’ (though that’s not a word I particularly like). And I realised that the reason I liked this movie so much, despite some ‘icky’ bits, is that it’s real. It’s a (romantic) comedy that’s not just about the jokes and the laughs and the happy end. It’s actually about realistic people, who are going through or have been through rough times, but who ultimately come out of it in a better place – or at any rate, on the road to that better place. They’re people, not caricatures. Yes, they’re exaggerated a bit – they have to be, for it to be a film – but at the end of the day they’re still recognizable. Rhodes, the policeman who desperately tries to be funny and never really gets there, who is sweet and caring but who also gets frustrated when his efforts go unnoticed. Lillian, the bride-to-be who gets swept up by the glamorous lifestyle of the boss’ wife. My personal favourite has got to be Megan, such an unconventional and refreshing character to see in a film – she’s big, she’s quirky, she tackles life with the utmost optimism and is not afraid of herself. In any other film, Megan would probably be a lesbian. But here, she’s unashamedly sexual, and it’s incredible to see. Some of her actions are quite cringeworthy, but not any more so than Annie’s when she throws herself at the womanizing Ted, who clearly doesn’t want anything other than casual sex.

That’s the thing about this movie. It shows one of the most frank depictions of sex that I know. Annie and Ted disagree over what to do, they switch positions a lot; Rita complains about the sex in her marriage, and candidly tells the girls she wants “balls in her face {on the bachelorette party}… to give her something to fantasise about for the rest of her life”; we even see mouselike Becca starting to come to terms with the fact that she does want sex, even if her husband doesn’t, and perhaps she should stand up for this. We need more films with this kind of attitude to sex. [Of course, it’s always described as ‘woman-oriented’ or ‘female-driven’, implying it’s aimed solely at a female audience, which I think is wrong; I’m positive that men would enjoy it just as much. Perhaps for different reasons, but they’d enjoy it nonetheless.] I hope people watch it and realise that it’s ok to be sexual, and that sexuality is unique to everyone. It’s not a film about sex, but it does have something to say on that topic, and kudos to the writers and producers for saying it.

Reflecting

I’ve been back in the UK for the last 3 weeks (not for good, I’m heading back to Greece for the summer in a few hours), and I’ve developed an annoying habit. Whenever anyone asks me how the last year has been, my immediate answer is “interesting”. It’s like I can’t think of any other way to sum it up. And it’s not untrue: it HAS been interesting, getting to know the country as an adult, seeing quite how different things operate over there, etc etc. But if I’m being honest, when I tell people it’s been “interesting”, what I actually mean is that it’s been depressing and fascinating and awesome and infuriating; I’ve had fun, learnt to be independent, developed some self-confidence, but also been horrendously down, become less flexible; I’ve seen and experienced some amazing things, been to gigs and talks by myself, rediscovered my creativity in ways I wouldn’t have imagined with the kids, but also had to deal with less pleasant aspects of life and had to face the reality of being a young woman pretty much alone in a huge city. I’ve been happy, sad, excited, lonely, jealous of my friends back in England, angry at myself and others. It’s been a rollercoaster, thrilling yet stomach-churning; and a relief to reach the end in one piece. I don’t regret taking the year, but I DO regret not taking advantage of it fully. Not much I can do about it now though. I’ll just do my best to learn my lesson 🙂